Lonely in a crowded room: How shame isolates mothers

Lonely in a crowded room: How shame isolates mothers

A few years ago, when I was newly postpartum with my third child, we took a family trip to the zoo on one of the first really nice summer days. The place was more crowded than usual, with lots of kids (and parents) relieved to finally be outside after a cold and rainy...
Why I love my anger

Why I love my anger

I’ve always been a person who runs hot, both physically and emotionally. I like my air conditioning cranked up high and I have BIG feelings. I’m quick to anger but also quick to move on. As a teen, my father and I would often have loud clashes – lots of yelling,...
Surviving the holidays with your boundaries intact

Surviving the holidays with your boundaries intact

If there was ever a season that pushed for boundary violations, returns to toxic relationship dynamics, and heaps of guilt thrown at you when you deviate from unhealthy patterns, it’s now. This span of time, generally from Halloween until New Year’s Day, is RIPE for...